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Read Sally Field's Impassioned Open Letter About Her Gay Son

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by Peter Knegt
March 28, 2014 1:18 PM
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Sally Field Son

The fabulous Sally Field released this open letter about her gay son today, and it's more than enough to give you a Happy Friday. Field urged people to get behind the Human Rights Campaign, which is currently trying to raise $150,000 to help it fight bullshit ‘religious liberty’ bills that have been proposed in a number of states, allowing religious bigots to deny goods and services to any person they disapproved of for "religious reasons." They only have a few more days to raise the money, so Sally stepped up to the plate asking folks to join her in having some common sense.

Read Field's letter in full:

The three things I’m most proud of in my life are my sons, Peter, Eli and Sam. They are kind, loving and productive people. Each with their own list of talents and accomplishments. Sam is my youngest son, by 18 years, and he’s gay. To that, I say: So what? Growing up, Sam wanted desperately to just be like his older brothers – athletic, rambunctious and even a little bit macho. He wanted to beat Eli at tennis, trounce Peter at computer football and learn everything about every basketball player on the court. But Sam was different. And his journey to allow himself to be what nature intended him to be was not an easy one. When I saw him struggling, I wanted to jump in. But his older brothers held me back. They told me I couldn’t travel that road for Sam. It was his to travel, not mine. I had to wait for him to own himself in his own time. I could make it easier only by standing visibly to the side, clearly loving him, always being there and always letting him know.

Finally, at 20, long after he beat his brothers at tennis and computer games and knew as much as anyone about basketball, Sam was able to stand up proudly and say, “I am a gay man.”

One of the great privileges of my life to have been allowed to be a part of Sam’s journey.

There are people out there – organizations and politicians, strangers who have never even met Sam – who would rather devote themselves to denying his happiness.

Why would anyone want to prevent my son—or anyone’s son or daughter—from having basic legal safeguards like family medical leave, Social Security survivors benefits, or health insurance? It doesn’t make any sense—but it won’t change until people speak out. I’m proud to stand with HRC to add my voice. Will you join me?

Whether you are LGBT yourself, a parent or grandparent of an LGBT child, or just a great person with strong convictions about what’s fair and right, I hope I’ve convinced you to stand with HRC for equality. You’ll be glad you did!’

 And if you need more Sally Field fabulosity, here's her amazing speech when she accepted an award from the Human Rights Campaign last year:

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  • Angelo | August 24, 2014 6:03 PMReply

    Really CAN'T believe that some people can make a judgement from a fictional book, (bible), as well as misinterpreting its message.
    Surely if these bible bashes believed in god, they must be aware god made people the way he did. Contrary to 'testing' gay people, god's probably testing the bigots to see if they can open their minds and hearts. But unfortunately some poor retarded people still have their minds closed.............
    Lovely mum Sally, much respect. X

  • Bob Spence | August 12, 2014 6:58 PMReply

    Well done Sally Field on your Ally For Equality Award and your supporting speech. As a great admirer of not only your acting ability but your stance for equality I can only wish you and your family all the best in whatever challenges lie ahead. God Bless you all.

  • Granny | August 12, 2014 12:23 PMReply

    Barbara Streisand's son is also Gay and she accepts him as he is.

  • Karen | July 14, 2014 3:50 PMReply

    The only thing I do not like about this article is the way it starts: "The fabulous Sally Field released this open letter about her gay son today,". It should have stated this was about an open letter about her son, who is gay.
    I too have a son who is gay and I don't label him as my "gay" son. He is my son. End of statement.

  • Alice Lytton | July 14, 2014 5:57 PM

    I see what you're saying Karen (and fwiw I love what you say about your son) but I also don't think our writer meant it the way you've suggested at all... Sometimes it's worth giving people benefit of the doubt and the tone of the piece (and the site) is never one that thinks kids are divided into the "gay" one and the "straight" one (or, y'know, the "blue-eyed one" and the "brown-eyed one").

  • amber | July 6, 2014 3:17 AMReply

    There is no god. Ancients made him up to explain things they didn't understand. It's a ridiculous in this day to believe something that stupid.

  • Granny | August 12, 2014 12:12 PM

    I agree Amber. And so do people such as Albert Einstein, Bill Gates, and Stephen Hawking.

  • KJ | May 28, 2014 9:42 AMReply

    I'm a Christian and proud to be one. My faith teaches me to love one another and not to judge others. If someone who calls them self a Christian can condemn someone because they are gay is a hypocrite. I try to live my life as a caring and loving person and accept others for who they are. Wish others would do the same. This world would be a better place.

  • Mike | May 8, 2014 8:43 AMReply

    Mikayla check out LEV 18:22, LEV 20:13, I COR 6:9-10, and ROM I :26-28....Why the name calling? If you have a classroom full of kids and one of them has a birth defect you treat that child with love and respect, but you don't call that child normal. You help that that child along. I'm not looking to hate on anyone, I just don't agree with the lifestyle and don't need it in my face every minute.

  • Rafael Moreno | May 17, 2014 11:09 PM

    Actually Homosexuality is never condemned in the Bible, the secularists decided to pretend as if it is a sin, when The Bible never condemns it,

    Now lets get to the passages which people claim condemn homosexuality, but actually do not.

    Romans 1:24-27 actually condemns the person who's arguing against Homosexuality, just like Romans 7, Paul uses a hypothetical Opponent and refutes them, he used diatribe, so Paul isn't claiming that it's wrong, Paul actually calls out the sinner/unbeliever who claims Homosexuality is wrong.

    So that passage is actually Pro-gay.

    Next up, Leviticus 18:22 and Leviticus 20:13,

    Leviticus 18:22 says in original language/hebrew, " V"et-zachar lo tishkav mishk"vei ishah to"evah hu."

    and Leviticus 20:13 says, "V'ish asher yishkav et zachar mishk'vei ishah to'evah asu shneihem mot yumatu d'meihem bam"

    Breakdown,

    lets use 20:13 as it 's basicallly Leviticus 18:22 but with more words,

    V'ish - And male
    asher - Who
    yishkav - lie down
    et - with
    zachar - male
    mishk'vei (mishk'av)- Beds/lyings
    ishah - woman/wife
    to'evah - abomination/abhorrent/ritually unclean
    asu - Do
    shneihem - both of them
    mot - dying
    yumatu - they will die
    d'meihem - their blood (or blood of them)
    bam - on them (or them)

    Now here's the key, mishk"vei ishah which means Lyings of Woman, what does that mean?

    According to Hebrews/Jews jewishmosaic.org/torah/show_torah/18 it is Plural(Lyings) because it either refers to Vaginal, or Anal penetration.

    Since men do not have vaginas, it is used here to mean Anal penetration, Homosexuality is not condemned in Leviticus 18:22 and Leviticus 20:13, Anal penetration is. therefore there's not one instance of Homosexuality being condemned in The Old testament.

    Now the final two verses that are supposedly against homosexuality,

    1 Timothy 1:8-11 and 1 Corinthians 6:9-11

    1 Timothy 1:8-11 - The word mistakenly translated into "homosexuals" is arsenokoitai

    1 Corinthians 6:9-11 - The word mistakenly translated into "homosexuals" is arsenokoitai

    So both the verses have the word arsenokoitai which is translated so wrongly to meaning "gay/homosexual"

    arsenokoitai does not mean gay, the word is used in the greek translation of the Old testament/Septuagint, to translate both Leviticus 18:22 and Leviticus 20:13

    These were two separate words, arsenos and koitai, which are basically Greek translations of the Hebrew mishk"vei ishah

    Meaning arsenokoitai as proven by Septuagint/LXX translation of Leviticus 18:22 and Leviticus 20:13, simply means mishk"vei ishah, which means Lyings of Woman,

    Therefore 1 Timothy 1:8-11 and 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 condemn the same thing, Anal sex.

    So Romans 1, Leviticus, 1 Corinthians and 1 Timothy do not condemn homosexuality,

    There we have it, Homosexuality is therefore never once condemned in The Bible.

    Unbelievers need to repent and start loving gay people, and gay people you can now become Christians while remaining gay and being in a gay relationship, never condemned and YHWH(The Father and The Son and The Holy Spirit) doesn't care about that, what He is sad about is anyone who rejects Him and and harms others, that's the problem, not homosexuality.

  • Rafael Moreno | May 17, 2014 11:05 PM

    It's a sin to call something a sin, when it isn't ever condemned as a Sin.

    Do you even know what sin means?

    Contrary to popular belief, Sin is not anything Pleasurable, Delightful or Wonderful, lets get to the chase,

    1 John 3:4-10

    " Everyone who practices sin also practices lawlessness; and sin is lawlessness. 5 You know that He appeared in order to take away sins; and in Him there is no sin. 6 No one who abides in Him sins; no one who sins has seen Him or [b]knows Him. 7 Little children, make sure no one deceives you; the one who practices righteousness is righteous, just as He is righteous; 8 the one who practices sin is of the devil; for the devil [c]has sinned from the beginning. The Son of God appeared for this purpose, to destroy the works of the devil. 9 No one who is [d]born of God practices sin, because His seed abides in him; and he cannot sin, because he is [e]born of God. 10 By this the children of God and the children of the devil are obvious: [f]anyone who does not practice righteousness is not of God, nor the one whodoes not love his brother.

    So sin is basically Lawlessness/Breaking God's law.


    Now what is The Law?

    Matthew 22:34-40 - "But when the Pharisees heard that Jesus had silenced the Sadducees, they gathered themselves together. 35 One of them, [a]a lawyer, asked Him a question, testing Him, 36 “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?” 37 And He said to him, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ 38 This is the great and [b]foremost commandment.39 The second is like it, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ 40 On these two commandments depend the whole Law and the Prophets.” - God(YHWH(The Father and The Son and The Holy Spirit)

    Matthew 7:12 - "In everything, therefore, treat people the same way you want them to treat you, for this Is the Law and the Prophets." - YHWH(The Father and The Son(Jesus Christ) and The Holy Spirit)

    So to sin is to Break The Law, which is Treat others the same way you would want them to treat you, it's to break The Law which is to Love Everyone.

    Sin is to harm another, plain and simple.

    So no, no matter what any atheist, unbeliever, so called believer says, sin in Christianity is Not anti-pleasure or an imaginary concept

    It's not Fun, and it's Real

    Sin is basically... Harm.

    I'll end with Colossians 2:20-23 - "If you have died with Christ to the elementary principles of the world, why, as if you were living in the world, do you submit yourself to decrees, such as, 21 “Do not handle, do not taste, do not touch!” 22 (which all refer to things destined to perish with use)—in accordance with the commandments and teachings of men? 23 These are matters which have, to be sure, the appearance of wisdom in self-made religion and self-abasement and severe treatment of the body, but are of no value against fleshly indulgence."(This passage proves that flesh doesn't mean literal flesh, but is a term.)

  • Mikayla | May 7, 2014 12:30 PMReply

    Please, all of you judgmental pricks, tell me where it says in the bible that being gay is a sin. Oh that's right, it doesn't say that.

  • waterman | May 7, 2014 12:50 AMReply

    A liberal and her faggot son.

  • john | July 9, 2014 5:48 AM

    Hey mr. snivels open the door and let some fresh air in. Closets are stuffy-wuffy!

  • Mike | May 5, 2014 10:10 PMReply

    There is nothing "normal" about being gay. No matter how much you tell yourself and others its normal, it's not. It's a birth defect. Loving people of the same sex is fine, but to engage in intimate sexual acts with those people is disgusting. As far as Jesus is concerned no one really knows what God would say but he did tell a prostitute to go and sin no more. Love the sinner hate the sin. Gay people are kind, wonderful, and talented people but they are just a little off. Tolerance not acceptance. These people should be loved and treated with respect. No marriage but civil unions should be performed... We don't let the handicapped compete in the the Olympics... Gays shouldn't "marry".

  • Jay | June 12, 2014 11:46 AM

    Didn't Oscar Pistoris compete in the London Olympics? He's a double amputee. Moreover, your comment contradicts itself. You make no sense. So, people with birth defects, should be denied a happy life? Perhaps God will bless you with a child that has a birth defect, so you will one day learn to be a loving, caring, compassionate, accepting person.

  • Jeff Dillon | May 6, 2014 10:39 AM

    Mike...your an idiot!

  • Jack | May 3, 2014 3:55 PMReply

    Hooray for Sally Field. From Day 1, always a caring, loving and a smart person.

  • Cheryl | April 24, 2014 7:28 PMReply

    Sam, is lucky to have a supportive mother and family, I wish all LGBT had this support. It makes me so angry when I hear people be so STUPID.

  • Lizzy | April 18, 2014 9:00 PMReply

    God said no. Nothing more to discuss.

  • Diane | May 3, 2014 3:59 PM

    Liz is a Lez.

  • Not your Fan | April 29, 2014 8:18 PM

    There's a lot that God said no to but you hypocrites "changed" the bible and called it the New Testament (but that was done by a believer so in your simple mind that's okay).

    Wasn't that long ago Lizzy that you would have been burned at the stake for having such a name...

  • Mark | April 1, 2014 8:31 AMReply

    Sam is a lucky man

  • Kevin S.Butler | March 31, 2014 7:44 AMReply

    I agree with Ms.Field and her son..no on has the right to deny the needs and respect to anyone..because of their sexual preference.

    Her son Sam has the right to love a man and no one should abuse or be discriminatory to this gentleman..because he chooses to love a man and not a woman. I hope and pray that this abusive and bigoted nonsense aimed at the gay and lesbian community will stop and these people will be allowed to live their lives in peace and with respect as the rest of the human race.

  • Heathyr | May 6, 2014 10:54 PM

    People should have the right to deny people service for any reason, unless they are a government entity.

  • Tammy | March 31, 2014 6:37 AMReply

    ... we love you, we really love you!

  • David | March 30, 2014 9:05 PMReply

    Oh Miss Field, I have loved you since I was a small child watching "The Flying Nun"!!!!!! Bless you for who you are and what you have done all your life!!! I believe that if my mom had lived she would have been the same type of mom to me, her gay son, ME!!! God Bless You!!!

  • Sandy Miller | March 30, 2014 11:38 AMReply

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    You could save lives...
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    Waiting to see if anyone out there that can help make changes will address these problems and not keep them hidden...We can ALL make some kind of difference if we try just try...Sent this page to so many celebrity's guess we shall see who is willing to open there HEARTS & SOULS and help..I will stalk if I have to ..OH WAIT that's not legal..BUT ABUSE isn't either...JUST SAYIN ;) PLEASE HELP SUPPORT OUR CHILDREN>>CAUSE WE ALL BECOME ADULTS....
    Now see we are ADULTS and no one helped then so be brave help children and ADULTS...MALE FEMALE GIRL BOY...JUST because we are grown doesn't mean where not still LOST inside and help help...Because we where those children at one time..Abused one form or another..

  • Oliver | March 30, 2014 5:42 AMReply

    If it's OK for Christian shopkeepers to turn away gays, can pagan fire-worshippers refuse to serve (and refuse to pay taxes towards) firefighters?

  • Dana Neer | March 30, 2014 2:13 AMReply

    Bravo Sally !

  • Kristian | March 30, 2014 1:40 AMReply

    Sally Fields is amazing, even more for her love, understanding and acceptance. Traits some of of you seem to forget were a huge part of Jesus Christs modus operandi.... Those of you who claim to not be homophobic, that's fine (amusing but fine) though understand you're still intolerant. The world could use all the Sally Fields out there! Better her and what she stands for than all the intolerant, hateful, ignorant bigots.... Since no one has spoken to god and since the bible was written by men I choose to believe that god (if he/she/it) exsists has nothing but love for me and pity for some of you others.....

  • TJ | March 30, 2014 1:00 AMReply

    Jesus, protect me from your followers!

  • Greta | May 4, 2014 9:38 PM

    Where's the "LIKE" button?

  • Lorri | March 31, 2014 12:39 AM

    But Jesus is love and he would be supportive of all the children that his father made, no matter what their sexual identity.

  • Nancy | March 29, 2014 11:07 PMReply

    Who appointed you people to speak for God? Didn't He make all of us? So you must think He made a mistake when he made gay people! Is that what you're saying?

  • Deborah | May 15, 2014 2:42 AM

    God did not make people gay, nor has genetics. There are no serious scientists who would stake their reputation on a statement that has not yet been proven. People who decide to state they are gay is due to their own choice to embrace a lifestyle which is repugnant to God; God gave humanity the freedom to choose between right and wrong.

    Human sexuality goes through different stages as we grow and develop. It is perfectly normal behavior for young children of the same sex, especially girls to want to hold hands on the way home from school, etc.. It is during puberty that our sexual identities are very fragil, for example a boy who is clumsey in sports and enjoys playing a guitar over playing football, were often referred to as sissys during the 1950's-1990's, yet very few grew up to be homosexuals. With the media and liberal groups lambasting Christian faith and morals, shoving the gay lifestyle as the norm down our throats, trying to change the face of our culture in America, and liberal court judges overriding the judicial system of states' rights to let the people decide through the normal course of voting what they deem right for their individual states; it is no wonder our young people are being brainwashed into thinking that people are actually 'born that way' and have no choice to participate in an un-natural sexual act. We are becoming Sodom and Gomorrah all over again; just as the Bible has predicted.

  • Katie | March 29, 2014 10:18 PMReply

    Forget it Robert. Once he came out that he's gay, it means he's gone too far to change his mind. He's too vested in that lifestyle.

    I pray for them. I'm not homophobic...I just know it's an immoral lifestyle. "Don't fool yourselves, homosexuals will not inherit the kingdom of God." (I Corinthians 6:9)

    I pray for Sally Fields son.

  • Jay | June 12, 2014 12:00 PM

    I just looked that up and there is no mention of homosexual. And, mistakenly I'm sure, you fail to mention fornicators. I'm sure you waited until you were married like everybody else has. Oh yeah, effeminate doesn't mean homosexual. Keep trying, my dear.

  • Deborah | May 15, 2014 3:06 AM

    Katie, I agree with most of what you have to say and disagree with the vulgar cheap shots that some of these other individuals are taking at you due to your convictions, however, anyone who comes out as gay can always change their mind and abstain from that lifestyle if the are shown the true Word of God, which is the Bible in it's entirity, and if they are open to it's truth. God IS a loving and forgiving God, yet he is also a JUST God, and the wages of sin is DEATH. Due to POLITICAL CORRECTNESS AND IN THE NAME OF TOLERENCE, HATE SPEECH, ETC., many pastors are watering down the Word and are becoming weak-spined in preaching the truth of the Bible. When pastors do this, people begin to become numb or want to ignore the truth, and the church will become nothing more than a social event where the preachers are expected to make the people 'feel good" about themselves, which maybe will make them donate more money. At this point, the Church is sacrificing the peoples' souls for a few coins of silver in the offering plate.

  • Phyllis | May 3, 2014 4:01 PM

    Katie, there are no words for a woman like you. Oh...WHORE... I found one.

  • Maurine | April 22, 2014 9:23 AM

    Katie, there is something broken in your head.

  • Jill | April 3, 2014 2:34 AM

    Really Katie?? You seriosly believe that a gay person can "change his mind" about being gay? Can you change your mind about your sexual orientation? You think anyone would purposely choose a life full of discrimination from closeminded people like you who are supposedly good Christians?
    I know someone like you. She has a gay son. She refuses to accept him for who he is, for the way he was born. They have a horrible relationship. How sad it is that their time together here on earth is so wasted.
    I too have a gay teenage son -- my only child. I am incredibly proud of him. He is smart, kind, talented, and a good person. I adore all of his friends, straight and gay. It's been one year today since he told us that he was gay. I love my son. No one will tell me that he is not normal or is immoral because he is gay. That's such bullshit!
    And by the way Katie, I'm still trying to decide if I still want to be Christian or not, unfor tunely, people like you have given it a bad name recently.

  • Bird | March 31, 2014 11:19 AM

    Pray for yourself, Katie...you're the one who will need all the help she can getting into Heaven. God doesn't judge so why do you think you can?

  • Robbie | March 31, 2014 1:06 AM

    I'm sure he would prefer if you did not. Have you perhaps considered minding your own business?

  • Robert | March 29, 2014 10:06 PMReply

    I always liked Sally Fields. I hate to hear she has a homosexual son. I feel bad for her for not having a normal son. I hope he changes his mind and goes straight....at least for his family's sake.

  • Karlos | May 14, 2014 1:41 PM

    Maurine is right about Katie. There is something broken in her head. Maurine speaks from personal experience. The questions is, does she realize it? I would also like to acknowledge the fact that I consider myself to be broken in the head. That's right! I, along with the rest of fallen humanity are broken in the head. The Bible refers to when it began... The Fall. The Bible also declares that "all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God." The fact is that we were born sinful. Every single one of us has and continues to struggle with desiring and doing things that are ultimately harmful to us. Such is the reason for the death of Jesus. He died on the cross in our place, taking upon Himself the punishment for sin that we all deserve, so that we might through His loving sacrifice be forgiven for our sin and freed from its power over us. There is nothing wrong with someone believing that the choices that others make are wrong. To say that this is wrong or unacceptable is intolerant. We should be at liberty to respectfully express our beliefs. The intolerance of folks, whether on the right or on the left, is what feeds into the problem and polarization. At the end of the day, we do not have to agree with each others conclusions. But we must respect the other even if we feel strongly that the other is wrong. I for one am glad that a person in college lovingly helped me to see that my sexual sin of fornication was wrong according to the teaching of the Bible. This was a sin that I believe I was born with. However, I could not deny the fact that the Bible taught that fornicators would not inherit the kingdom of God. I did all I could to justify my own behavior, but ran into the teachings of the Bible. Acknowledging my guilt was a huge step in the direction of becoming born again (John 3). God drew me to Himself, opened my eyes to my own sin and need for the Savior, and caused me to be born again. I do not speak as one who is smarter or better than anyone else, but as one who believes that the Lord is patient and kind... and that he desires for all to arrive at a saving knowledge of Jesus. We must be careful not to stereotype on another. The are extremes no doubt, but there are reasonable folks on both sides of the issue that may, at the end of the day, be closer to one another in thought than they are to those on the extreme in their own camp. While I am a conservative Christian, I believe I speak for many when I say many of us have failed to beautify the gospel in some of our attitudes and actions. We will have to give an account on judgment day. We will all have to give an account.

  • Betty | May 3, 2014 4:03 PM

    She has a normal son, Robert. What society has is another a**hole like you.

  • Bird | March 31, 2014 11:16 AM

    Robert, I feel bad for your mother -she has a judgemental, closed minded man for a son.

    And, Katie? Judge not, lest ye be judged. True Christians don't judge others.

  • Stefanie | March 30, 2014 12:12 AM

    She doesn't care what you think Robert. You are an ignorant ass.

  • Florida lesbian | March 29, 2014 12:13 PMReply

    Thank you, Sally Field for standing up for us!! Your stand and voice are greatly appreciated!

  • Randalyn Benson | March 28, 2014 6:34 PMReply

    Sally Field is a wonderful person!

  • Devon | March 28, 2014 2:00 PMReply

    I just love her.

  • d.c. | April 17, 2014 10:04 PM

    Just when I thought I couldn't love her any more than I already do! Wish Brothers & Sisters was still on the air, and for anyone who needs a mood elevator, rent Soapdish. You haven't lived until you've seen Sally Field in a mall with a turban.

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