By Anne Thompson | Thompson on Hollywood November 4, 2013 at 1:09PM
So she used multiple points-of-view, including home movies of her mother, who died when she was 11, dramatic recreations, and her father's own writing, to unfold the story, as well as Super-8 B-roll footage of her conducting interviews with her family. Even showing the process of making the film left things up for grabs and open to interpretation, she says. "You're constantly questioning what people telling you, constantly questing."
She admits that the final film, as complex as it turned out to be, was far simpler than some of her 200-page single-spaced treatments. She ditched, for example, an entire framing device with a narrator on a theater stage presenting players, with all her interview subjects in the audience, she admits: "We got three quarters of the way and didn't need it."
As Polley immersed herself in the role of detective in her own family, she discovered a great deal about her lost mother. "One of the great joys of making this film was all the things I was learning about her," she says. "She was growing and changing, it was an amazing thing that happened, she came alive. As I learn more, perceptions change...She was all of the things people say she was, dynamic and vibrant and lovely and warm and a little bit crazy. She was a mass of contradictions, that's what we're all like."
The other thing Polley learned, especially as she threw out her own narrative point-of-view in favor of her family's, was how to listen: "I don't know how many opportunities we have in our life to ask them for their versions of things and just listen, not interrupt and argue, just listen. We all have such a personal stake in what happened, constantly interrupting and not hearing the entire story. I loved not being forced into the scenario, it was not my job to have a conversation or convince them of my version. I let details I disagreed with go by. It was an amazing experience I'd love to take with me in real life."
Throughout, the hardest thing for Polley was trying to let the movie speak for itself without offering up too much information about its revelations. While "it's not fair to not talk about what people want to talk about," she says, "I try not to offer up twists."
Nor do we. See the film.